I grow weary of the single life...

That would be a deal breaker for sure, TED!

TigersEyeDowsing wrote:So, Gilly, I shouldn't open the conversation with "Hi! You look a lot like my ex, who was a real let me tell you, who gave me 16 kids that all still live at home and drive me nuts! Maybe you can sneak over sometime after they're all in bed. Hey, do you have a few bucks I can borrow to cover this?"

Wow, you learn really quick, TED!!! LOL Hey....can I touch your hair??? he he he.....

You should have seen my coworker's face fall. We didn't like each other and I'd just started here, when this very attractive woman just came up to the counter and said "Can I just touch your hair?" to which I said Why...sure.

Poor ole Tiger. That 40 and 50 year old remark really bothers me though.


I love long hair. You are lucky you were not around when I was 8 years old. I have two cousins both teenagers at the time I was 8, (very tolerant teenagers) One with long light brown hair and the other with lovely long red (natural red) hair. They could not keep me out of it. I'd walk by, (on purpose) and rustle up their hair

I am a good girl now though.........................hee hee

Well, TED does have beautiful hair.

Hahaha. Don't worry MC, I wouldnt' beat you off with a stick.

Now that just sounds pervy.

To the topic of this thread, I broke down in a moment of weakness and got a Match.com account a few weeks ago. Deavon's experience sounds about right, then again I didn't pay to be able to email anyone. After the first two days I got out of my weak point and thought nah, nobody I want to talk to that bad.

TigersEyeDowsing wrote:Hahaha. Don't worry MC, I wouldnt' beat you off with a stick.

Why thank you my kind sir

sacrificialgoddess wrote:Now that just sounds pervy.

You are a naughty girl

TigersEyeDowsing wrote:

To the topic of this thread, I broke down in a moment of weakness and got a Match.com account a few weeks ago. Deavon's experience sounds about right, then again I didn't pay to be able to email anyone. After the first two days I got out of my weak point and thought nah, nobody I want to talk to that bad.

I have tried SEVERAL of them. match.com, true.com, singlesnet.com, chemestry.com, pof.com, and even eHarmony.com . . . . . . and have nothing to show for it. I have two on eHarmony who took the "guided communication" to the "open communication", but have not heard anything from them for a week. It makes me really wonder if I really DO have what it takes because of all the dating sites I've been on, all the time, . . . yet nothing of value to show for it. I'm done wasting money for failure. I can get rejected for free anywhere else.

Maybe your profile and/or communication skills needs some touching up. We can help with that!

I had a friend look at it and she thought it was good. Not sure how help from others would be wise, though. What suggestions would you make (without having seen my profile, of course)?

Here's what I said about myself:

I am basically a nice guy who knows how to treat people that I care about. My friends like who I am, and I am well respected by them. I am looking for someone to become friends with, who may end up on the same page as me, perhaps taking things to other levels in time. I will enjoy spending time with the person I meet, whether it is a night out dining, or at home watching a good movie. I would be interested in going out and doing things, whether enjoying nature, cycling, going to museums, etc, . . . trying new things that she likes, perhaps getting her interested in some of my hobbies as well. Mostly, I'm looking for someone who will eventually be a best friend, because that's the best foundation to have in a relationship.

Yeah, that's the kind of stuff I tend to put in my online profiles, which bomb. Too soft I suspect. This is just off the top of my head...I think women want a more action-y profile (it seems, along with a hot bod). 'Enjoying nature' (coincindentally the same thing I said) probably isn't butch enough, so maybe 'hiking' or
'kayaking' or something verbally adventuresome in nature is a better option. Like the cycling/hiking thing has potential but probably needs to sound like you already do it, not are looking for someone to do it with. Like, "I enjoy cycling, hiking, and nature, going out to eat, wanna come along?" Also, I'd make it more about 'her' than you. Like, intead of 'trying new things that she likes, perhaps getting her interested in some of my hobbies as well', maybe "I'm always up for learning something new and trying something different. What are you into?" Prompting a question, even on a generic public profile, is more prone to make people want to answer it.

I changed it to this:

I am basically a nice guy who knows how to treat people that I care about. My friends like who I am, and I am well respected by them. I am looking for someone to become friends with, who may end up on the same page as me, perhaps taking things to other levels in time. I am the type of person who would enjoy spending time with the person I met, regardless of what we were doing, whether it is a night out dining, or at home watching a good movie. I enjoy cycling, hiking, and nature, going out to eat, good movies, museums, etc. . . you're more than welcome to join me! ;-) I'm always up for learning something new and trying something different. What are you into? Mostly, I'm looking for someone who will eventually be a best friend, because that's the best foundation to have in a relationship.

Unforutunately, I don't have the "hot bod". I'm not a typical looking guy. I'm short (5'6"), bald, light completed, and probably have too much body hair. Physically, I'm not all that desirable, and that may be where I fail with the "first impressions" that online dating provide. Many overlook me due to the physical, so I'm unable to show them that I know how to treat them well.

Eh, around here they like to be pushed and slapped around. Nobody does the 'sutthun' gentlemahn' thing anymore it seems. My manager broke her wrist trying to smash her boyfriend's head in with a hammer while they were fighting. (He lived, they're madly in love.) My best friend likes to get thrown through walls by her husband. Then again, she did run him over in her car last month. *shrug* I don't really know how it works. I do know from most of the girls I'm friends with, nobody likes a 'nice guy' and the first impressions matter so much look-wise. Eh, it's discouraging. But I'm sure there's got to be somebody out there if you're actively looking (and aren't that picky appearance wise).

What is it Tiger, something in the water??

That is awful.

I like to think I am not the minority, I do like nice guys. Anything else and they can take a hike.

MaineCaptain wrote:What is it Tiger, something in the water??

That is awful.

I like to think I am not the minority, I do like nice guys. Anything else and they can take a hike.

It must be. Then again the women here are pretty butch too. I mean they fight back just as hard.

I don't fight, never have, never liked it. Not a coward, just hate to fight. Don't even like to be around people who are shouting, I leave.

I know I am dull, but I like peace.


P.S. that does not mean I don't enjoy a reasoned discussion or even a disagreement , sort of an agree to disagree, but no I do not want participate in fighting. These forums are as close as I even want to get to that

Liar. I know for a fact you like to be tied up and whipped.

Tiger, you need to get out of there.

TigersEyeDowsing wrote:Liar. I know for a fact you like to be tied up and whipped.

You are so bad. There are no words for how naughty you are

You little beastie

MaineCaptain wrote:

TigersEyeDowsing wrote:Liar. I know for a fact you like to be tied up and whipped.

You are so bad. There are no words for how naughty you are

You little beastie

Rawr.

Gen: I love the country (and the blue ridge!) and can't be without it, I just don't care for the people it often produces.

Weeell, good ideas, MC. However, depending upon just where in southwest Missouri Deavon is, there may not be any colleges nearby and probably squat for adult ed.

When you're not the type to hang out in bars, meeting people in a church is usually the best bet in very small towns (if that's his situation) in the rural areas of the central U.S. Even though I went to the local Methodist church a few times when I was single, it was much too Christian for my tastes with little possibility for dating. The other churches would have been far more offputting to me. No way!

That's why I turned to AOL chatrooms in the mid-90's to meet someone . There you're talking back and forth live and get a sense of who seems to have ideas and a sense of humor similar to yours, not waiting around for someone to send a message the way you do with the dating services.

I do remember one guy, though, a chatroom acquaintance who was a mean-spirited sort that not many people liked but put up with because he was severely disabled, cerebral palsy I think it was, and probably had no social life but online. He asked me to exchange pics once.

After having seen mine, he emailed me that he'd never consider dating me, I wasn't anywhere near good looking enough.

Then, I downloaded his picture. OMG! Let's just say that he'd be as good looking as George Clooney only in his wildest fantasies. I simply burst out laughing at his having told me that I didn't measure up to his requirements. Needless to say, I never mentioned my reaction to him, however, merely thanked him for sending the picture and wished him luck finding a congenial mate someday. Fortunately, my failure to suit apparently kept him from asking what I thought of his looks. It would have been difficult to be tactful.

So I can certainly empathize with your dilemma, Deavon.

I met my ex online (chat room, like Dot's talking about). Shipped her up from Florida. I don't think I have the energy to date from the web again though.