How do you make college long distance relationships work?
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How do you make college long distance relationships work?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years in High School now, but
we are going off to different colleges. How do you make college long
distance relationships work? I really want our college long distance
relationship to work because we truly love each other. I do not think I
can imagine being without him...so if anyone knows how to make college
long distance relationships work, it would be greatly appreciated!
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we are going off to different colleges. How do you make college long
distance relationships work? I really want our college long distance
relationship to work because we truly love each other. I do not think I
can imagine being without him...so if anyone knows how to make college
long distance relationships work, it would be greatly appreciated!
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JashimChando- Posts : 3
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
I don't know how to make them work. Mine didn't last - it was me who dumped him, and I was the one to go away to college. I don't think they should be "made to last." College introduced me to a much wider variety of men (and boys!) and many more experiences. My old boyfriend didn't want to grow or change and his ideas on women were very antiquated (he asked my father why he was wasting money of educating me since I was just going to get married and have kids). I am very glad that I met and dated more than just in high school.
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
JashimChando wrote:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years in High School now, but
we are going off to different colleges. How do you make college long
distance relationships work? I really want our college long distance
relationship to work because we truly love each other. I do not think I
can imagine being without him...so if anyone knows how to make college
long distance relationships work, it would be greatly appreciated!
I expect you're not going to want to hear what I have to say which is that I think you'd both do better to shelve this relationship and agree to date others.
A long-distance relationship is very difficult to sustain even when both people have established careers and live independently.
"I do not think I can imagine being without him" is the stuff of movies and fairy tales. I apologize for putting this so bluntly, but get over that kind of thinking and grow up. If the two of you truly are in love, you'll have a better basis for a lasting relationship once you've graduated college, gotten jobs and lived on your own for a year or two than you do now.
DotNotInOz- Posts : 2795
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
gillyflower wrote:I don't know how to make them work. Mine didn't last - it was me who dumped him, and I was the one to go away to college. I don't think they should be "made to last." College introduced me to a much wider variety of men (and boys!) and many more experiences. My old boyfriend didn't want to grow or change and his ideas on women were very antiquated (he asked my father why he was wasting money of educating me since I was just going to get married and have kids). I am very glad that I met and dated more than just in high school.
Wow. That comment alone would have earned a one way ticket to dumpsville with me. I can't blame you for dropping him.
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
Just musing on the types of guys I was attracted to when I was in high school...
Most people at that age are incredibly dumb and immature and have not the glimmerings of an idea how very dumb and immature they are. I certainly represented that remark.
I did badly enough picking Husbands 1 & 2 as a supposedly mature adult. If I'd married anyone I found appealing when I was in high school, it would've been a disaster for sure.
Most people at that age are incredibly dumb and immature and have not the glimmerings of an idea how very dumb and immature they are. I certainly represented that remark.
I did badly enough picking Husbands 1 & 2 as a supposedly mature adult. If I'd married anyone I found appealing when I was in high school, it would've been a disaster for sure.
DotNotInOz- Posts : 2795
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
I was more attracted to the girls in my high school than the guys. They were just more attractive people, inside and out. Of course, my parents were taking me to a fundamentalist church at that point in my life, so the idea that I was attracted to any girl just had me freaked out and I was deep, deep in denial land.
Glad I was able to grow up and admit that I swing both ways.
Glad I was able to grow up and admit that I swing both ways.
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
Well I don't need to add my 2cents here, its been already "said"! College, military, moving, doesn't matter what's happening before, during or after HS: What DOES matter, as a young person, you need to find out who you are, what you are willing to do, what your made of, & how do you want your life to be, as an adult! And "being" with someone else & finding out those things is: A direct insult to yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, & spiritually!
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
JashimChando wrote:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years in High School now, but
we are going off to different colleges. How do you make college long
distance relationships work? I really want our college long distance
relationship to work because we truly love each other. I do not think I
can imagine being without him...so if anyone knows how to make college
long distance relationships work, it would be greatly appreciated!
Hard work.
That being said, you've got to determine for yourself if it actually is worth the hard work or not, and you can't do that yet. You have incomplete information.
If he's right, it won't seem like hard work, if not, it will.
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
JashimChando wrote:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years in High School now, but
we are going off to different colleges. How do you make college long
distance relationships work? I really want our college long distance
relationship to work because we truly love each other. I do not think I
can imagine being without him...so if anyone knows how to make college
long distance relationships work, it would be greatly appreciated!
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
DotNotInOz wrote:
I did badly enough picking Husbands 1 & 2 as a supposedly mature adult. If I'd married anyone I found appealing when I was in high school, it would've been a disaster for sure.
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
I'm guessing that JashimChando likely won't listen to us since most of us didn't tell her how to keep this relationship going long-distance but instead discouraged her from trying to sustain it in those circumstances.
I didn't listen to advice about picking good husband material either, and I remember all too well how very smart I thought I was at her age about conducting my own life. (In short, nowhere near as smart as I thought I was.)
"Experience is the toughest teacher; she gives the test and then the lesson."
Oh, well...
I didn't listen to advice about picking good husband material either, and I remember all too well how very smart I thought I was at her age about conducting my own life. (In short, nowhere near as smart as I thought I was.)
"Experience is the toughest teacher; she gives the test and then the lesson."
Oh, well...
DotNotInOz- Posts : 2795
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Re: How do you make college long distance relationships work?
She hasn't seemed to pop back here since her initial post. It's a shame.
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